Older woman, younger man.
Posted on November 3, 2007 - Filed Under General
Once upon a time society deemed it bad taste or even taboo for women to bridge the age gap by dating a younger man, but it now seems these romances are on the rise.
The fact that society places these demands on us, trying to make us conform to accepted behaviours and adhere to a certain code of conduct sometimes leads us to find that the forbidden fruit can be very tempting..and why not? It seems the days of settling for what you can get are long gone and today’s women are heading out into the dating jungle with a firm view on what they ‘want!’
Historically, we know that most men have had relationships with women who are younger. This has related to matters of fertility and also pre-arranged marriages. In the past decade though, the times are a changing and the percentage of older women having relationships with younger men is on the increase.
In relationships, it is not age that matters but rather spiritual, emotional and mental compatibility between the two people. Each person needs to have qualities that the other person is looking for and wants in a relationship. Maturity of two people is important in a relationship, regardless of their age. We must remember though that maturity is not always about age. A young person can be more, mature in attitude than an older person. It is important to have shared interests and values and to be on the same wavelength as each other. When two people really connect and love each other in a genuine way, age should not matter.
In a truly committed relationship it is love that is the center point, not the number of years since your birth. It is love which creates connection and balance between two people, not how many candles are on your birthday cake.
Your differences are just as important and enriching for your relationship as the things you have in common. A younger lover can open your eyes to different opinions, visions, pursuits, and can bring a real breath of fresh air to your world. Of course this works both ways, he can also learn from your widsom and worldly experience, so you are both in turn teaching and discovering new things.
My advice is, don’t listen to the detractors! If you love him and he adores you, then your love will be more than enough to see you both through. When two souls meet and you truly fall in love, age matters not.
True love knows no boundaries when it comes to age, just as it is for colour, religion and creed.
So if it’s good enough for Madonna, Demi, Sharon Stone and Susan Sarandon to name but a few, then hey,I am in good company and it’s good enough for me too!
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Ohhh fab post. I’m a younger ady with a man 14 years my senior. We’ve been together 14 years and have two gorgeous kids.
I know it doesn’t have the same ‘taboo’ as older lady younger man, but the feelings are all the same.
If you’re in love, you’re in love. Just be happy.
Oh, and tag you’re it.
I don’t know why it’s even taboo anymore. As far as I’m concerned, as long as both parties are happy and are both legal, consenting adults - then it really doesn’t matter who they choose to share their life with.
I married a younger man. We married on his 40th birthday. I am 43 and have 4 kids. He has no kids, never been married and never even lived with a woman before.
It is not our age difference that is noticeable but what we have each achieved in our lives. If we went by experience alone, I would be 172 and he would still be 40!
My gosh I feel old some days…but then I remember my younger lover and I feel young again.
my man is a wee bit younger …3 months but still a talking point. MY SIL is one year one month older than her DH.My bestfriends hubby is 7 yrs younger than her. At time I first met him while visiting them in Melb she was 31yr and he wasn’t even 24yrs. She refused to tell me the age difference (she was seriously embarassed) but ‘heehee’ told my husband, who told me half way home to Sydney.Then have been married 10 yrs now.
He was so PROUD of his older women and bragged to my husband about. So go for it and enjoy it to the full.
I agree that it is about maturity rather than age. Great post.
What a great topic! My hubby is a year younger - not much I know but still a great subject to explore. If the connection is there, what’s age got to do with it
I’m happy to be a member of this club. My husband is seven years younger than I but spiritually we’re the same age. My grandmothers lived to be 100 so I needed to be sure to marry someone younger so that I had someone to ‘go the distance with me’
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this is a wonderful post.
my husband isn’t chronologically younger, but he sure acts childish. does that count? no, not really, he’s also a grumpy old git. i can say that, safe in the knowledge he won’t ever see this. and if he *does* find this : “hey, dude! stop bein’ so grumpy! you can be replaced with a younger model!”
I was watching a show on VH1 all about Cougars (older women with younger men) and thought about you. I’ve met quite a few wives here who are 5+ years older than their husbands. At the time I met my hubby a younger man wouldn’t have been legal but does it count if his maturity level is lower than mine in some ways?
My live-in boyfriend is 16 years younger than I–he is 23, and I am 39. We are happy and very much in love. He says he wants to marry me, and that the age difference doesn’t matter to him at all. I am afraid that eventually as I start to look older that his feelings will change. On the other hand, I don’t want to mess up something beautiful just because of insecurities that may be groundless.
My new boyfriend is 13 years younger. I am 42 and he is 29. We get along so great he just moved in this week. Sometimes I feel it’s too good to be true and I get freak out, but I keep it to myself because I don’t want to loose him.
I guess I need to relax and enjoy the ride!
i was google the question ( i am 6 years younger shall i marry him ) then i find my self read this great post its really help ..
Really, this is amazing. I agree with all the the comments before. Maturity levels are different in everyone; and it’s not the age that defines where and how the relationship develops, but more about the people inside their hearts, minds and souls. It’s that indescribable feeling you feel for someone, but you know you connect. And the only ones who know they feel that connection are the two involved.
I ve been dating a guy for 6 mos. thats 11 yrs. younger than i , at first i was worried about what other peole will say, but as time went on i stopped caring ,he is my total opposite and iam really daing out of my box, and he makes me very happy, and has all the qualities of a man that i look for he just came in a different package and i love it!
I am a man that is 22 years younger than my wife- I am 23 and she is 45. the only thing that has made it wrong to OTHERS is that she is old enough to be my mother and she has a daughter that is only two years younger than me. but the thing is, when i see her, I never see age. I see the love of my life; the one God gave me. Granted there are little issues of wisdom and experience; Like how much of it i dont have and how she has it all, but God has really given us a SUPERNATURAL love for each other. I am the luckiest man alive.
I’m very happy to read all the comments. My boy friend is 3 years younger than me. I’m 24 and he is 21 years old. At the beginning i was unsure about this love and so worried about others thoughts but after get through with him, i realized the purity of love and now he is everything to me. Even though we are going through a lot of problem by people around us but it does not stop us to share love. Our love is getting stronger and stronger. I hope we marry one day and full fill all our dreams together. God Bless !